Last night, I felt blessed to support some new, great, creative shit that reminded me that at the end of the day, great stories will get made. It was also a great moment because the creator wasn't someone I've been following on social media pretending to know their life - this creator was Diarra Kilpatrick, a wonderful and righteous woman I know in real life!Read More
Today I had one mission - rise above the fuckery that tomorrow will bring.
I knew staying off social was going to be imperative to my goal. Still I found time to pop up on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram a few times. I posted a picture or two but didn't let myself search too long at any given time. I found more fruitful distractions.Read More
October brought about a huge change in my life. I FINALLY cut the cord on my ATT UVerse cable account. As a somewhat tech savvy individual, this was long overdue. As a dedicated and avid TV fan that lives for DVR Sofa Saturdays, this has been a hard adjustment (all five days of it lol). The big issue has become waiting to watch my shows. My current favorite show is FX's Atlanta, which airs on Tuesday nights. I had to wait until last night to catch up on this week's episode. The good news is that it was WELL worth the wait!Read More
A few weeks ago, my friend and I decided to spend the afternoon at The Broad. Our trip had been inspired by the opening of Yayoi Kusama's Infinity Mirrored Room and we were both equally excited to see the contemporary museum's collection. Many pieces stood out as there were Basquiat's and Warhol's and all the "fancy" ish I couldn't wait to stage selfies near. At the time I was feeling a bit uninspired so I hoped the art would help.Read More
Last night I went to a screening of "The Birth of A Nation". I read this script quite a while ago and was on fire as I read the last page. When the film hit Sundance and it's writer/director/lead actor Nate Parker left the festival with all the coins, I was ecstatic and could not wait to see for myself. I thought what a fantastic and timely clap back to the 1915 movie that depicted "the anarchy sure to come if the niggas took over". However, as news began to circulate about Parker's collegiate rape charges, I was a bit less enthused.Read More
I'm really great at a lot of things. Relaxing is not one of them. Especially when it comes to my work. I think I've gone to the extremities of "strong work ethic" and have entered the land of perfectionist. Perfectionism used to sound perfectly fine with me - who didn't want PERFECT work?! But I realize that in my life, it has become a burden I no longer chose to bare.Read More
I can be a bit of an alarmist...I do my best to keep it under wraps as not to affect others but it's a bit of a thing. I generally exist in a state of high alert and near panic. I don't necessarily know what's coming, but feel deeply that danger is just around the bend. My mind and spirit naturally flow to the worst case scenario. I dread days like Friday the 13th because my alarm sensor goes into severe. Here is a valid case in point-welcome to the intensified drama this day brings. (And for my male readers, warning: this one may not be your cup of tea.)Read More
This week all that I was going through combined to form the perfect storm of how much more can one girl take resulting in a Saturday morning breakdown. But I didn't trip and let the tears fall. I knew I'd be ok if I could just make it to 6pm PST when Beyonce's visual album would premiere on HBO.Read More
As I grow older, I realize that folk near and dear to me will die. I expect this and as hard as it is to prepare for, I know one day I'll have to deal with the death of my elders. Weird as it may sound, it can be harder for me to deal with the death of those in the media. These artists and pop culture icons remind me of certain time periods in my life and their death makes me look a bit more at my own mortality. A Tribe Called Quest represents the dawning of hip hop (for me) and my coming into my own. When I learned of Phife Dawg's passing, it hit hard. He's only 5 years older than I...I realize he had to deal with the harsh realities of diabetes and kidney disease and now there's no more suffering. That's a blessing. And he left a gift...RIP Phife Dawg.
I have been known to call the next great thing way before anyone else a time or two and I pretty much have been calling it about Nate Parker for quite some time now. I mean, how could I not be captivated? My first time seeing him was opposite Denzel (who happened to be his director at the time) and I was so caught up I only saw Nate Parker (I generally say his whole name so don't mind me). He was really remarkable. Like super solid and handsome and leading man and yeah all of that lol. I'm sure my friends were sick of me with Nate Parker. Then there was a period where I still loved him just didn't dig his character or his role much. And that's no dig - it happens if you watch enough movies (same with books - you don't love every single character!). Then he came back so hood/gangsta in "Red Hook Summer", I was convinced he could do it all. And then came "Beyond The Lights" and that would get me all off topic (OMG super fine, saved the damsel in distress and preferred the natural girl oh yes Nate!). I digress...Read More
While cleaning last night, I found my old phone. I was shocked to find it had all of the music I assumed had been lost. I was very happy because I knew that today on the way to work, I'd have some good music which always makes my day flow better. As I pulled into the driveway at the office, a familiar K West beat hit and my eyes filled with tears. "A Dream" is one of my favorite Jay-Z songs because as he poetically share Biggie's notes from the other side, I can't help but realize their relevance to my life. So as I head into the second week of this year, it's the reminder there is NO ONE built like me (or you just FYI) as I build myself...my one of a kind self.